Are You a Mom Who Dares?
This is the question I’ve found myself asking for the past month. It was bothering me because I thought I was certain and clear on exactly who a Mom Who Dares was and what its was she dared to do – DREAM AND DARE!
Although I still believe she’s someone who dares to dream again, there was an uncertainty nagging at me which I kept pushing away. I did not want anything to cause a shift in what I truly felt a Mom Who Dares was. It wasn’t until I spoke with my dear friend and fellow coach, Adina Laver, that I realized that maybe embracing this feeling of uncertainty was better than resisting it. She pointed out a different way to view uncertainty and as always, I felt much better after our discussion.
What I took away from my conversation with Adina was the fact that uncertainty or the pressure we put on ourselves to be certain can actually lead to us missing out on things along our journey. What if we created space for uncertainty called uncertain space? Would this uncertain space be filled with emotion, shifts or ideas? Although I wasn’t sure, I believed if we made space for and embraced uncertainty, what would happen is a process of getting curious. Curious enough to ask questions which can lead to shifts, which can then lead to the space required for new ideas to emerge!
So back to my question I was feeling uncertain about…
Who is a Mom Who Dares?
A Mom Who Dares is a mom, who while devoting her life to her career, family and friends finds the curiosity and courage to ask, “What about me?” What do I want and desire? What do I want to be and do and have?” She asks these questions without feeling or experiencing any guilt over turning some of her focus inward. Should guilt or uncertainty about turning her focus inward creep in, she stands firm in it and says, “NO! I want to know what it is I want. What do I want to do and have in my life so I can be proud of me?”
She’s a mom who believes and is courageous in knowing that she can focus on herself while still being here for her career, family and friends. She realizes that if she can figure out who and what she wants she will bring value to others in her life.
After allowing uncertainty in and creating the space to get curious and ask myself this one questions, I discovered that a Mom Who Dares is not just a person who is doing; rather she’s the mom who gives herself permission to step into her brilliance. She is, at her core, the mom who does DARE TO DREAM AGAIN!
Are You Ready to be a Mom Who Dares?
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December is here and with it comes holiday parties and gatherings with friends, family and coworkers. It’s a time to reflect on what this past year has brought forth and what the New Year can bring. It’s also a time when uncertainty can and most likely will show up.
If you are feeling uncertain, I invite you to embrace and accept it. Hold space for the uncertainty and believe that it’s life’s way of having you pause and get curious. One way to do this is by asking questions. Here are a few to consider:
- What is true for me right now?
- What is this moment of uncertainty for or trying to tell me or trying to open me up to?
- What is something I did in the past that brought me joy?
- What is something I have always wanted to do, try or learn?
If you have a questions that you feel has helped you move through uncertainty or that would help someone else, please share it in the comments section below.
If you’re really serious about getting curious with your uncertainty of where you are and where you would like to be, LET’S CHAT! I’m certain we can figure out some things together. Sometimes all you need is a someone to hold that space open for you, so you can explore your thoughts and ideas freely.
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