Winter break brings a mix of excitement and tension, and today’s episode is dedicated to all the moms eagerly preparing to welcome their grown-up kids back into the fold for the holiday season.
To guide us through this unique experience, we’ve brought back an audience favorite—Adina Tovell. Adina isn’t just an executive coach and founder of the People Leadership Institute; she’s also a personal development expert with over 25 years of experience. Her expertise lies in helping people understand themselves, identify what matters most to them, and refine how they want to navigate the world.
Beyond her professional achievements, Adina is a friend and a fellow Empty Nest mom. She understands the intricacies of this phase of life and is right there in the trenches with all of us. As we gear up for the reunions and navigate the ups and downs of the midlife Empty Nest chapter, Adina provides invaluable insights and support.
So, grab a cup of tea, settle in, and join us as we explore the excitement, the tension, and the joy that comes with having our adult kids back home for winter break. Idina’s wisdom is sure to enlighten and inspire all the moms out there preparing for this special reunion.
In this episode
[04:31] Understanding who your adult kids are now after having been gone from home for at least four months.
[06:20] The two perspectives of your grown-up children: being independent yet finding relief in being back home.
[09:31] The two perspectives as parents: being excited your adult children are coming back home vs. an exhausting disruption in your new home routine.
[14:39] Not expecting things to be as they always require an awareness that relationships are an ever-evolving thing.
[16:36] “Don’t abandon yourself. Don’t abandon all those routines.” – Adina
[18:37] How not to fall into the trap of trying to get your adult children’s attention when they come back home.
[21:15] Making plans with family but not including your grown-up children is a dangerous slippery slope of disappointment.
[24:33] How to properly suggest scheduled activities when your adult children are back home.
[27:29] Adina’s dare and double dare for the moms in the audience.
Your Dare for the episode is to identify your non-negotiable routine. Your Double Dare is to stay mindful of the big picture. This is not just about your needs, hopes, and expectations, but it is about seeing the bigger picture and recognizing that you have needs. Your family has needs and your child has needs.
About Adina Tovell
Adina Tovell is a Senior Executive Coach (PCC) specializing in people leadership, inclusion, and belonging. She is also a communication trainer, podcaster, speaker, and internationally recognized Curiosity Advocate. She earned an Executive MBA from Drexel University, a Master’s degree in Educational Leadership from St. Joseph’s University, undergraduate degrees in Political Science and Education from Barnard College, and is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), credentialed by the International Coaching Federation. Adina is also trained and certified in Outthinker, a breakthrough training to help companies develop competitive growth strategies; the Arbinger Institute’s Outward Inclusion program; and MAP, a coaching protocol for releasing habitual negative mindsets.
She believes that people are an organization’s greatest asset, and when leaders understand how to help team members thrive, impact and success follow. Adina is an Executive Coach who helps leaders and organizations create a People First culture. She combines her deep understanding of adult learning and development, innovative approach to instructional design, and masterful facilitation skills to create high-impact learning experiences that result in meaningful positive change.
Adina has worked with companies of all sizes ranging from large publicly traded global companies to regional nonprofit organizations across a wide range of industries including Biotechnology, Banking, Behavioral Health, Higher Education, and Manufacturing to help leaders and organizations create a People First culture where there is a strong sense of trust and belonging clear communication, and effective feedback designed for growth.