What’s My Purpose? I Finally Have The Answer For You!
“I feel as if I’ve lost the best job I’ve ever had.” This is the exact statement many moms have said to me over the past ten years while I’ve been supporting empty nest moms. They go on to say that if they’re not full-time moms anymore, then what really is their purpose?
The transition from a bustling household to an empty one can be a mix of emotions. We may experience a sense of loss as our roles as primary caregivers evolve. However, it is important to remember that this newfound freedom also offers exciting opportunities for self-discovery and personal growth.
In this podcast episode, we will explore the concept of finding your purpose as an empty nest mom and how it can empower you to embrace this next phase of life with enthusiasm and fulfillment.
Remember, the empty nest phase is an opportunity for personal reinvention, growth, and self-fulfillment. It’s time to prioritize your needs, passions, and desires. And to reestablish a sense of purpose that extends beyond motherhood. So, let’s embark on this exciting journey together, rediscovering the vibrant, empowered, and purpose-driven woman within each of us.f
The shift of your role as a mom
You can feel like you are losing the best job that you’ve ever had and that you are not being needed anymore. And yet it is important to understand that your role as a mom has only shifted. It has changed, but it has never gone away. They might not be calling to ask you for your opinion on all the decisions that they’re making, but that does not translate to not needing you anymore. All that translates to is that you did your job. You raised your children to brave new experiences and to become independent decision-making adults.
Furthermore, “once a mom, always a mom”. Motherhood is a life sentence because your kids will always need their mom in their life. They will always value you and your advice.
YOU are your purpose
You’re trying too hard to figure out what your new purpose is. Because of this, you’re missing seeing that your purpose is right in front of you. This next chapter gets to be about you. Your purpose now is to discover and do things that you might have stopped doing or put on the back burner as you focus on everyone else.
I’m no stranger to college drop-offs and life transitions. Along the way, I quickly realized that how I experienced this transitional phase of my life had nothing to do with my existence as a mom, a wife, or a business owner. Rather, it had everything to do with me. Me being a human being and what followed has been an incredible journey of self-discovery that led me to where I am today. And the simple realization that I am my purpose, and it can happen for you too.
Steps to finding your purpose
Step one: Decide.
Decide you’re ready, that it is your time, and that you are your purpose. Because nothing can happen until you’ve made a decision.
Step two: Make a list.
This is the reflecting and writing part where you’re going to ask yourself some questions. Reflect back on a time before you were even married. Ask yourself, what were things you liked doing while you were dating? What did you like doing before you had kids? What is something you’ve always wanted to do?
Step three: Your dare for this week.
Dare of the Week
Your dare is to take action! Take action with one thing on your list.
If you are stuck with the list-making and you can’t really come up with ideas, grab a copy of My 30 Days of Daring by signing up for our weekly podcast emails. Dare on!
Ready to take action?
Check out our Moms Who Dare Membership Community, a membership community where we share tips and strategies to take your first steps towards daring.
Self Talk Clean-Up
Grab this simple yet powerful exercise and watch how you begin to find your purpose! Click here to access the Self Talk Clean-Up.