The second of the three R’s on your way to thriving through Empty Nest!
The first “R” I shared was to Re-Imagine. The process of asking yourself some key core questions that would set you on the path of reimagining what could be. Reimagining is all about the dreaming. Dreaming of all the things you can be, do and have.
Once you start reimagining and dreaming again, it’s time to start Re-Defining.
Merriam Webster defines re-define as: To define (as a concept) again ; reformulate; to reexamine or reevaluate especially with a view to change ; transform
I know what you’re saying or thinking. Great Jodi, thanks for the definition, what am I supposed to do with it or how or where do I begin? Keep reading, I promise to clear it up for you.
Just yesterday, on January 1st, I got together with a group of women to participate in the Polar Bear Plunge. For those of you who don’t know what that is, A polar bear plunge is an event held during the winter where participants enter a body of water despite the low temperature. In the United States polar bear plunges are usually held to raise money for a charitable organization. I did this to jumpstart my year of daring myself to do new things.
After the plunge the six of us went back to a house to chat about what daring ourselves looked like for each of us. While sitting around the table chatting, one of the women, Karen asked a really great question. She explained how she was ready to do and try some new things for herself. Where she was feeling stuck was how to know what to say yes to and what to say no to. Does this resonate with you? It did for all of us. I have personally struggled with saying yes and being overcommitted and also with saying no for fear of overcommitting only to find that I missed out on an opportunity I would have enjoyed.
I loved Karen’s question and I shared the answer I have shared with many others. How to know when to say yes and when to say no? It all begins with re-defining.
Re-Defining your values to thrive during empty nest
Values are “a person’s principles or standards of behavior; it’s your judgment of what is important in life.” Values shift and change as our lives shift and change. So revisiting them and re-defining them is a great place to begin.
Before you can actually commit to an action plan for your reimagined dreams and goals, you will want to become clear on the values most important to you.
Our values, those principles we hold ourselves and others to, are the driving force behind creating our transformation. Becoming clear as to what is most important to you will enable you to look at the things that came up when you allowed yourself to reimagine and ask if they are in alignment with your core values. This is how you will know when to say yes and when to say no.
Below is a list of 50 values to consider. Highlight the ones that resonate with you. Don’t think about the word, just read it out loud and if there is an immediate connection with the word, write it down. Once you have your list you will want to narrow it down to the top 10, then the top 5. Don’t worry if you have a few or more, there is no right or wrong with what resonates.
|Helpful||Leadership||Persistent||Simplicity||Enjoys Teaching others|
|Integrity||Learning||Playful||Rest & Relaxation||Trustworthiness|
|Kindness||Patience||Contributing to Society||Having a spiritual way of life||Trust|
Once you have your top 5, go back to the list you made when you were reimagining and dreaming. Now ask, do those ideas, dreams and goals align with your top 5 values? If yes, make your new list. If no, put those items on a separate list to revisit at another time. Now you are well on your way to experiencing some new and exciting things this year just for you!
Tune in soon for the final R of the three R’s to help you thrive during empty nest.
An additional resource for you in re-defining and gaining clarity is the Ebook I created just for you. It also includes that six-core questions discussed in the Re-Imagine blog post. Just fill in your name and email at the top of this page and it will be sent to your inbox.
For those of you that would like some one on one support on how to navigate life through empty nest, let’s chat! This is what I do. I will help and support you through the NOW WHAT? of Empty Nest so you can begin to reimagine and redefine how your life will feel and how it can look now that the kids are moving on.
I always say…
“Your kids are going out into the world to meet new people and experience new and exciting things, why not you too? “
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